Hair talk: what works for you may not work for me. What does this mean?

Hey loves! Hope you're doing okay? This post isn't the usual Washday post or tips n tricks... Its kinda like a rambling post but I'm actually trying to point out something to you and I hope you get what I mean by the time you finish reading this. I may be writing on some topics from my own point of view. I'll try to keep up with this one on Tuesdays :-)

Some weeks ago I was added to a group chat which comprised of my classmates from secondary school. I got to chat with some friends and we shared pics too and I noticed that they wore mostly weaves... (I shouldn't talk about their real hair... That's another story Entirely). It was already close to my 2yrs hhj anniversary and I decided to tell them about my hair so far.
I showed them a pic of my real hair back then when we were still in secondary school and showed a pic of it now. I told them to send me private msges if they want to find out more about what I do so they can also do it themselves. I then sent inspirational pictures of ladies before and after to prove that the current state of your hair doesn't matter or stop you from getting to your desired length. Immediately two friends messaged me saying my progress is amazing and they would love to have long hair too.

You wouldn't believe the next messages I got from two ladies... One of them was my Friend and I didn't know the other. This is what she said In her own words... "why are you showing off?... Who are you to say that using extensions cause damage to hair?" (she has no edges if I should add... Lmao). The other added... "you're condemning everyother person with your pics like you're perfect". They went on and on.

I was shocked... Like, stunned I had to apologize for sending them before and after pictures of myself and other women (I guess Lade of Rehairducation's pic was the pic that let loose their anger and envy). But they continued even after I apologized. I had to tell them that if I were as ignorant as they are now I wouldn't have gotten to the stage where styling my hair looks better on me than wearing a weave! They honestly can't tell the difference between condemnation and inspiration. 

Then one of them said the reason why she got angry at what I wrote and the pictures I sent was that the pic with the girls long hair was too much (like Lade's hair was intimidating them I think) and besides what I would tell them doesn't make sense because what works for me will not work for someone else. 

Which brings me to the topic above. It clearly means that she doesn't know the meaning of what she just said. In her mind... No need to waste her time trying anything from me because we are different  People and what works for me will not work for her and she's only going to waste her time. 

I had to write that sentence down as a note for the benefit of my readers I didn't bother replying her because you'll agree with me that showing a photograph to a blind person is a waste of time... He will not see it. 

Here we go! 

        When I started my hhj I read through different blogs and I became familiar with the sentence, "What works for me may not work for you". I still had to adopt a hair bloggers regimen and started adjusting mine. Now my regimen looks so much different from hers. In my own thoughts, the sentence is a way of saying you have to find you and do you. Find the things your hair likes by yourself. Because your hair may not lik all what the other persons hair likes. For example, If my sis used only Shea Butter to seal in moisture and I use Shea Butter and my hair doesn't feel right then I'll look for something else to use in place of Shea Butter that would give the same effect of Shea Butter for sealing in moisture. I could use an oil say castor oil and my hair would be fine. But thinking about it in such a way that if it worked for my sis and I tried it but it didn't work for me then nothing else in this world would work so I should allow my hair to stay continually Dry. This will not help in any way.

       Experiment, mix and match, try different products, study your own hair, know your own hair and see how you can get your hair to get better lengths. Thats the meaning of what works for me may not work for you. There is no one that Deep conditioning, moisturizing and sealing and regular scalp massages does not work for. I can say it Works for everyone!. It's the products you have to experiment on instead of completely abandoning the entire idea because you tried once and it didn't work well.

        If you're reading this and you have that mindset pls have a rethink because a single decision to find that one moisturiser or deep conditioner for your hair could drastically change the health and appearance of your hair overtime.  It will save you from being at the other side of the fence and still thinking there's no need to be on a healthy hair Journey because what works for the bloggers and YouTubers you see may not work for you! 

Comment below, Let me get your thoughts on this one :-) 

*much love*

Current protective style @8weeks post relaxer